This page will become a place where I can share what I have learned about the emotion of anger and how women deal with it. 

For the present, here are some thoughtful insights into this emotion.


For women, anger is the ultimate taboo. - Sue Patton Thoele

Scratch a woman and find a rage. - Virginia Woolf

He who angers you, conquers you. - Elizabeth Kenny

Those tormented by the pain of anger, will never know the tranquility of mind. - Shantideva, 6.3

Anger is a tool for change when it challenges us to become more of an expert on the self and less of an expert on others. - Harriet Lerner

Our anger and annoyance are more detrimental to us than the things themselves which anger or annoy us. - Marcus Auerelius

Can you accept the moments of anger and fear as guests, be willing to receive them with kindness without feeling obliged to serve them a five-course meal. - Christina Feldman

Anger deceives us. Try to distance yourself from anger. - The Dalai Lama

Holding onto anger is like grasping a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at someone else; you are the one who gets burned. - Buddha

Energy spent in the suppression, inhibition, and displacement of anger in women has to be liberated if we want to transform it into creative pursuits and social change. - Harriet Lerner

She walks around all day quietly, but underneath it she's electric angry energy inside a passive form. The common woman is as common as a thunderstorm. - Judy Grahn

Getting angry gets us nowhere if we unwittingly perpetuate the old patterns from which our anger springs. - Harriet Lerner